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This may be why New Yorkers instinctively avoid making eye contact with each other in crowded places, why they 'look right through you,' as dismayed visitors often complain. They are not looking right through you at all; they are discreetly avoiding an intrusion into your space. They sense the danger in a place where a one-degree temperature rise can mean an explosion.

Russell Baker#25

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About this quote

What does it mean?
New Yorkers avoid eye contact not out of rudeness but to respect personal space in overcrowded areas.
In plain terms
New Yorkers avoid looking at people to respect their space.
What can you take from it?
Avoiding eye contact can be polite in crowds.

Where it applies

  • crowded places
  • public transit

Putting it to work

  • respect personal space
  • read social cues

Questions to consider

  • Is eye contact always friendly?
  • How do you handle crowds?

Another view

Some find this behavior cold.

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