There's no question that His Holiness is my root guru, and he's been quite tough with me at times. I've had to explain to people who sometimes have quite a romantic vision of His Holiness that at times he's been cross with me, but it was very skillful. At the moment he did it, I'm not saying it was pleasant for me, but there was no ego attachment from his side. I'm very thankful that he trusts me enough to be the mirror for me and not pull any punches. Mind you, the first meetings were not that way; I think he was aware how fragile I was and was being very careful. Now I think he senses that my seriousness about the teachings has increased and my own strength within the teachings has increased. He can be much tougher on me.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The author values his Guru's tough love as it helped him grow without ego.
- In plain terms
- My Guru was tough on me to help me grow.
- What can you take from it?
- Accept criticism and hard challenges as tools for growth.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do I respond to tough feedback?
- Who helps me grow through challenges?
Another view
Not all tough feedback is constructive; some may just be harsh.
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