'Literature, outside of the masters, has given us but one idea of the mistress, the subtle, calculating siren who delights to prey on the souls of men. The journalism and the moral pamphleteering of the time seem to foster it with almost partisan zeal. It would seem that a censorship of life had been established by divinity, and the care of its execution given into the hands of the utterly conservative. Yet there is that other form of liaison which has nothing to do with conscious calculation. In the vast majority of cases it is without design or guile. The average woman, controlled by her affections and deeply in love, is no more capable than a child of anything save sacrificial thought - the desire to give; and so long as this state endures, she can only do this. She may change - Hell hath no fury, etc. - but the sacrificial, yielding, solicitous attitude is more often the outstanding characteristic of the mistress; and it is this very attitude in contradistinction to the grasping legality of established matrimony that has caused so many wounds in the defenses of the latter. The temperament of man, either male or female, cannot help falling down before and worshiping this non-seeking, sacrificial note. It approaches vast distinction in life. It appears to be related to that last word in art, that largeness of spirit which is the first characteristic of the great picture, the great building, the great sculpture, the great decoration - namely, a giving, freely and without stint, of itself, of beauty.'
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Literature portrays women as calculating sirens, but most love is sacrificial and without design.
- In plain terms
- Books say women are manipulative; most women just love and give.
- What can you take from it?
- Love is usually sacrificial, not calculated.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you see love?
- Is sacrifice common?
Another view
It ignores cases where love is calculated or harmful.
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