Their lives were ruined, he thought; ruined by the fundamental error of their matrimonial union: that of having based a permanent contract on a temporary feeling which had no necessary connection with affinities that alone render a lifelong comradeship tolerable.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Marriage contracts based on fleeting emotions often fail when deeper affinities are absent.
- In plain terms
- Building a lifelong commitment on temporary feelings is a fundamental error.
- What can you take from it?
- Lasting partnerships need more than just initial passion.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What qualities sustain a long-term relationship?
- How do you distinguish fleeting feelings from deep connection?
Another view
Passion fades, but compatibility requires deeper alignment over time.
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