Tried myself in the school of affliction, by the loss of every form of connection which can rive the human heart, I know well, and feel what you have lost, what you have suffered, are suffering, and have yet to endure. The same trials have taught me that for ills so immeasurable, time and silence are the only medicines. I will not, therefore, by useless condolences, open afresh the sluices of your grief, nor, although mingling sincerely my tears with yours, will I say a word more where words are vain.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Shared suffering teaches that time and silence heal grief better than words.
- In plain terms
- Time and silence help heal deep pain.
- What can you take from it?
- Avoid empty condolences when someone is grieving deeply.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you comfort someone in deep pain?
Another view
Some people need verbal support to process grief.
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