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When Marilyn Monroe got out of the game, I wrote something like, 'Southern California's special horror notwithstanding, if the world offered nothing, nowhere to support or make bearable whatever her private grief was, then it is that world, and not she, that is at fault.' I wrote that in the first few shook-up minutes after hearing the bulletin sandwiched in between Don and Phil Everly and surrounded by all manner of whoops and whistles coming out of an audio signal generator, like you are apt to hear on the provincial radio these days. But I don't think I'd take those words back. The world is at fault, not because it is inherently good or bad or anything but what it is, but because it doesn't prepare us in anything but body to get along with. Our souls it leaves to whatever obsolescences, bigotries, theories of education workable and un, parental wisdom or lack of it, happen to get in its more or less Brownian (your phrase) pilgrimage between the cord-cutting ceremony and the time they slide you down the chute into the oven, while the guy on the Wurlitzer plays Aba Daba Honeymoon because you had once told somebody it was the nadir of all American expression; only they didn't know what nadir meant but it must be good because of the vehemence with which you expressed yourself.

Thomas Pynchon#1

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About this quote

What does it mean?
He reflects that after Marilyn Monroe’s death, he blamed the world for her grief, saying the world fails to prepare us for suffering.
In plain terms
He blames the world for not preparing people for pain.
What can you take from it?
Societal support is lacking for personal grief.

Where it applies

  • public mourning
  • mental health discussions

Putting it to work

  • offer compassionate support
  • recognize systemic gaps

Questions to consider

  • How can societies better support those in grief?
  • Is it fair to blame the world for personal sorrow?

Another view

Attributing fault to the world may overlook individual agency.

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