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When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on- series polygamy- until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimension to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.

Tom Robbins#12

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About this quote

What does it mean?
People seek partners to feel whole but must realize fulfillment comes from within not others.
In plain terms
We look for partners to complete us but we must be complete ourselves.
What can you take from it?
Take responsibility for your own happiness.

Where it applies

  • dating
  • marriage
  • breakup

Putting it to work

  • focus on self growth
  • evaluate relationship needs

Questions to consider

  • What fulfills you alone?
  • Do you rely on others?

Another view

Partners do contribute to happiness significantly.

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