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Look how your children grow up. Taught from their earliest infancy to curb their love natures - restrained at every turn! Your blasting lies would even blacken a child's kiss. Little girls must not be tomboyish, must not go barefoot, must not climb trees, must not learn to swim, must not do anything they desire to do which Madame Grundy has decreed 'improper.' Little boys are laughed at as effeminate, silly girl-boys if they want to make patchwork or play with a doll. Then when they grow up, 'Oh! Men dont care for home or children as women do!' Why should they, when the deliberate effort of your life has been to crush that nature out of them. 'Women can't rough it like men.' Train any animal, or any plant, as you train your girls, and it wont be able to rough it either.

Voltairine de Cleyre#23

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Gender roles are taught to children early, suppressing natural behaviors and leading to adult limitations.
In plain terms
Kids are taught strict gender roles that hurt them.
What can you take from it?
Gender norms restrict children's development and adult behaviors.

Where it applies

  • childhood
  • parenting
  • socialization

Putting it to work

  • allowing diverse play
  • challenging gender norms

Questions to consider

  • How does gender socialization begin?
  • What should childhood play look like?

Another view

It generalizes how all parents treat children.

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