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What does it mean?
Trying harder to be pleasant than you truly are is a mistake.
In plain terms
Don't pretend to be nicer than you are.
What can you take from it?
Be authentic instead of overly agreeable.

Where it applies

  • socializing
  • career
  • leadership

Putting it to work

  • practice honesty
  • avoid flattery

Questions to consider

  • Are you pretending?
  • What do they expect?

Another view

It may hurt social harmony.

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