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'In great misfortunes,' he told himself, 'people want to be alone. They have a right to be. And the misfortunes that occur within one are the greatest. Surely the saddest thing in the world is falling out of love - if once one has ever fallen in.' Falling out, for him, seemed to mean falling out of all domestic and social relations, out of his place in the human family, indeed.

Willa Cather#56

EmotionLoveSolitudeIsolationHeartbreakSadness

About this quote

What does it mean?
Misfortune drives people to isolate, especially the heartbreak of falling out of love.
In plain terms
People want to be alone when they are hurt especially after love ends.
What can you take from it?
Respect solitude as a response to grief.

Where it applies

  • breakups
  • personal crisis
  • social withdrawal

Putting it to work

  • allow space
  • respect boundaries

Questions to consider

  • How do you handle heartbreak?
  • When do you need space?

Another view

Isolation can sometimes worsen mental health.

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