Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Love cannot be forced or faked; it must arise naturally from genuine feeling.
- In plain terms
- Do not pretend to love someone if you do not really feel it.
- What can you take from it?
- Be honest about your feelings to avoid pretense.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Are you being honest about your feelings?
- Why do you pretend to love?
Another view
Sometimes people grow into love over time, so initial absence of feeling is not always permanent.
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