He smiled at her, and she felt uncomfortable as she always did when he showed her affection as opposed to lust. Lust she expected from a man but not affection. The men in her life, her brothers and father, had not been affectionate; and lust would have been inappropriate, though she saw them direct that at other women, usually women of low rank, ripe to be used and cast aside
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The narrator feels discomfort with affection due to a history of abuse or neglect, distinguishing it from expected lust.
- In plain terms
- Past trauma makes it hard to trust kindness from men.
- What can you take from it?
- Acknowledge how past pain shapes current reactions.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How does past pain affect trust?
- What signals safety to you?
Another view
Not all men fit the pattern of past abusers.
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