Is it possible for the rose to say, 'I will give my fragrance to the good people who smell me, but I will withhold it from the bad?' Or is it possible for the lamp to say, 'I will give my light to the good people in this room, but I will withhold it from the evil people'? Or can a tree say, 'I'll give my shade to the good people who rest under me, but I will withhold it from the bad'? These are images of what love is about.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Love is not selective; it cannot withgive fragrance
- What can you take from it?
- Practice generosity without judging worthiness.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you balance unconditional love with self‑care?
- When is it appropriate to set limits?
Another view
Boundaries are sometimes necessary for healthy relationships.
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