It's like you wanting to marry Miss World and she doesn't want you, what can I do about it? I can try to help you, but if she does not want to marry you what can I do?
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Wenger suggests that sometimes outcomes depend on factors entirely outside your control, no matter how much you try to help.
- In plain terms
- You can't force someone to want what they don't want, no matter how much you try.
- What can you take from it?
- Accept that some things are beyond your influence.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When is it time to stop trying?
- How do you know if you're overstepping?
Another view
This view might encourage passivity in situations where persistence could actually change minds.
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