It kills you to see them grow up. But I guess it would kill you quicker if they didn't.
Attribution disputed; shown as originally published.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- It is painful to watch children grow and leave, but not letting them grow would be even worse.
- In plain terms
- Watching kids grow hurts, but keeping them small hurts more.
- What can you take from it?
- Accept the pain of growth because stagnation is worse.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What is harder, letting go or holding on?
- How do you measure a child's success?
Another view
It assumes all growth is positive, ignoring harmful independence.
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