At some point in my life I'd honestly hoped love would rescue me from the cold, drafty castle I lived in. But at another point, much earlier I think, I'd quietly begun to hope for nothing at all in the way of love, so as not to be disappointed. It works. It gets to be a habit.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- The speaker initially hoped love would save them from loneliness, but later stopped hoping to avoid disappointment, a habit that now protects them.
- In plain terms
- I stopped hoping for love to avoid getting hurt again.
- What can you take from it?
- Stopping hope can be a self-protective habit.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What protects you from disappointment?
- Is safety worth the cost of hope?
Another view
This habit might prevent future genuine connections.
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