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Everything I've learned in life I've learned either by doing it or watching the changes other people go through. And when you're famous, you don't get to meet people - because they want you to like them when they present themselves to you, present the best sides of themselves, and you don't see the real people. Which is why I don't really go anywhere. And when I do, I put on my silly face and do what they expect me to do. Actually, I never do what they expect me to do. It's the only way I could go on doing what I have to do. I do whatever I: you know, I didn't even comb my hair today. I didn't know we were taking pictures but when I found out, it didn't change my mind any.

Cass Elliot#9

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Learning comes from direct experience or observing others. Fame isolates you from authentic human connection because people hide their true selves around you.
In plain terms
You learn by doing or watching others, but fame makes it hard to see real people.
What can you take from it?
Protect your authenticity by avoiding situations where you are perform for others.

Where it applies

  • dealing with fame
  • personal growth
  • social interactions

Putting it to work

  • avoid celebrity events
  • maintain private routines
  • observe human behavior

Questions to consider

  • How do you maintain authenticity in a performative world?
  • What role does observation play in your learning?

Another view

Avoiding all social contact can lead to further isolation and disconnect from reality.

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