At one campus where I was lecturing, I asked a friend, 'How many of my colleagues know I'm gay?' He answered, 'All of them.' I wasn't surprised. But, just the same, it was kind of spooky, because not one of them had ever given me the faintest sign that he or she knew. If I had spoken about it myself, most of them would have felt it was in bad taste.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Colleagues may know your identity but avoid acknowledging it to maintain professional neutrality.
- In plain terms
- Everyone knew you were gay but no one said anything to keep things professional.
- What can you take from it?
- Silence can signal acceptance or avoidance.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What does silence say in your work?
- Do you prefer to be known without asking?
Another view
Silence can also signal fear or judgment rather than acceptance.
More from Christopher Isherwood
It seems to me that the real clue to your sex orientation lies in your romantic feelings rather than in your sexual feelings. If you are really gay, you are ab…
Permalink to quote #12 The Nazis hated culture itself, because it is essentially international and therefore subversive of nationalism. What they called Nazi culture was a local, per…
Permalink to quote #14 I feel it's so easy to condemn this country [the United States]; but they don't understand that this is where the mistakes are being made - and made first, so …
Permalink to quote #11
Related quotes
One does not get better but different and older and that is always a pleasure.
Gertrude SteinGertrude Stein quote #2 'I am not who I would like to be, It's just who I am right now.'
Ralston BowlesRalston Bowles quote #2 I don't know, it's not like I was thinking about it being my trademark or whatever it is. I mean I don't think I'll get it removed or anything. But, I don't kn…
Skye SweetnamSkye Sweetnam quote #2