I did not want my son remembered by uncontrolled howls of pain. My wife and I suffered more than I can express, but to make poems merely out of the agony would have been self-pitying and dishonest. My son had been my greatest joy. His birth had left me awe-struck and humble before life. He turned me from a son into a father - and allowed me to understand my own father clearly for the first time. If I mourned him, I also wanted to preserve the joyful mystery of his existence. The sorrow could not be adequately appreciated without also expressing the joy and wonder.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Grieving a child involves balancing sorrow with joy of their life.
- In plain terms
- Honoring a lost child means keeping their joy too.
- What can you take from it?
- Mourning can include celebration.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you honor lost loved ones?
- Can joy exist with grief?
Another view
Some may not feel joy in grief.
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