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Gossip, public, private, social - to fight against it either by word or pen seems, after all, like fighting with shadows. Everybody laughs at it, protests against it, blames and despises it; yet everybody does it, or at least encourages others in it: quite innocently, unconsciously, in such a small, harmless fashion - yet we do it. We must talk about something, and it is not all of us who can find a rational topic of conversation, or discuss it when found. ~ Ch. 8

Dinah Craik#20

Human natureGossipConversationHabitHypocrisySocial

About this quote

What does it mean?
Fighting gossip is hard because everyone participates unconsciously.
In plain terms
Everyone claims to hate gossip but still does it to fill conversation.
What can you take from it?
Gossip persists because we all use it to talk.

Where it applies

  • social gatherings
  • boredom
  • conversation

Putting it to work

  • find better topics
  • avoid gossip
  • self-awareness

Questions to consider

  • Why do we gossip?
  • How to find better topics?

Another view

Some topics are harder to find than gossip.

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