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Let every one of us cultivate, in every word that issues from our mouth, absolute truth. I say cultivate, because to very few people - as may be noticed of most young children - does truth, this rigid, literal veracity, come by nature. To many, even who love it and prize it dearly in others, it comes only after the self-control, watchfulness, and bitter experience of years. ~ Ch. 8

Dinah Craik#21

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Truthfulness is a skill that requires cultivation and self-control rather than coming naturally to most people.
In plain terms
Being completely honest takes practice and self-discipline over time.
What can you take from it?
Practice truthfulness consciously as it does not come naturally.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • leadership
  • personal development

Putting it to work

  • truthful communication
  • self-monitoring
  • ethical training

Questions to consider

  • When is it hard to tell the truth?
  • How do you practice honesty?

Another view

Strict literal truth can sometimes harm relationships if not balanced with kindness.

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