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It is a curious truth - and yet a truth forced upon us by daily observation - that it is not the women who have suffered most who are the unhappy women. A state of permanent unhappiness - not the morbid, half-cherished melancholy of youth, which generally wears off with wiser years, but that settled, incurable discontent and dissatisfaction with all things and all people, which we see in some women, is, with very rare exceptions, at once the index and the exponent of a thoroughly selfish character. ~ Ch. 10

Dinah Craik#35

HappinessLifeCharacterObservationAttitudeMindSelfishness

About this quote

What does it mean?
Lasting unhappiness is often linked to selfishness rather than the amount of suffering a person has endured.
In plain terms
People who stay unhappy are often more selfish than those who suffered more.
What can you take from it?
Check your own selfishness when feeling unhappy.

Where it applies

  • relationship issues
  • mental health
  • personal growth

Putting it to work

  • self-reflection
  • gratitude practice
  • empathy training

Questions to consider

  • Does my unhappiness serve myself?
  • How does attitude affect joy?

Another view

Not all chronic unhappiness stems from selfishness.

More from Dinah Craik

  1. There is no sorrow under heaven which is, or ought to be, endless. To believe or to make it so, is an insult to Heaven itself. ~ Ch. 10

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  2. Though it is folly to suppose that happiness is a matter of volition, and that we can make ourselves content and cheerful whenever we choose - a theory that ma…

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  3. To have loved and lost, either by that total disenchantment which leaves compassion as the sole substitute for love which can exist no more, or by the slow tor…

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