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To have loved and lost, either by that total disenchantment which leaves compassion as the sole substitute for love which can exist no more, or by the slow torment which is obliged to let go day by day all that constitutes the diviner part of love - namely, reverence, belief, and trust, yet clings desperately to the only thing left it, a long-suffering apologetic tenderness - this lot is probably the hardest any woman can have to bear. ~ Ch. 10

Dinah Maria Mulock#33

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Losing love leaves either emptiness replaced by compassion or a slow erosion of reverence, belief, and trust, which is especially hard for women.
In plain terms
Love loss brings emptiness or gradual loss of trust, belief, and reverence, which is painful.
What can you take from it?
Recognize the deep impact of love loss and allow healing.

Where it applies

  • after a breakup
  • during bereavement

Putting it to work

  • process emotions
  • seek supportive relationships

Questions to consider

  • How do you rebuild trust after loss?
  • Is this pain gender‑specific?

Another view

It generalizes the experience to women only.

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