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It isn't only the terror everywhere, and the fear of being conscious of it, that freezes people. It's more than that. People know they are in a society dead or dying. They are refusing emotion because at the end of very emotion are property, money, power. They work and despise their work, and so freeze themselves. They love but know that it's a half- love or a twisted love, and so they freeze themselves.

Doris Lessing#37

SocietyAlienationDecayEmotion

About this quote

What does it mean?
People suppress emotions because they fear the material consequences tied to them in a dying society.
In plain terms
People numb themselves to avoid facing societal decay and material costs.
What can you take from it?
Emotional numbness can be a defense against societal collapse.

Where it applies

  • mental health contexts
  • societal analysis
  • personal relationships

Putting it to work

  • identify sources of emotional freezing
  • challenge societal norms

Questions to consider

  • When do you suppress emotions to avoid consequences?
  • How does society shape your feelings?

Another view

Not everyone freezes emotions for the same reasons.

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