It seems to me like this. It's not a terrible thing - I mean, it may be terrible, but it's not damaging, it's not poisoning, to do without something one really wants. It's not bad to say: My work is not what I really want, I'm capable of doing something bigger. Or I'm a person who needs love, and I'm doing without it. What's terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is the first-rate. To pretend that you don't need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of better.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- It is acceptable to forego wants, but not to lie about them.
- In plain terms
- Don't pretend you don't need what you actually want.
- What can you take from it?
- Be honest about your true needs.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What do you pretend you do not need?
Another view
Sometimes pretending is a survival mechanism.
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