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Why, when the world gets to understand about it I expect that two men or two women, or a man and a woman, will come in here, and say to me, 'We have quarrelled and outraged each other, we have injured our friend, our wife, our husband; we regret, we would forgive, but we cannot, because we remember. Put between us the atonement of forgetfulness, that we may love each other as of old.

Edward Bellamy#6

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Bellamy envisions a future where people can replace memory with forgetfulness to restore love.
In plain terms
He asks for forgetfulness to help enemies love each other again.
What can you take from it?
Forgetting can enable reconciliation.

Where it applies

  • apology
  • conflict resolution
  • rebuilding trust

Putting it to work

  • seeking peace
  • moving past arguments

Questions to consider

  • Does forgetting help healing?
  • Can you forget and move on?

Another view

Erasing memory may prevent learning from mistakes.

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