Everything has two handles, the one by which it may be carried, the other by which it cannot. If your brother acts unjustly, don't lay hold on the action by the handle of his injustice, for by that it cannot be carried; but by the opposite, that he is your brother, that he was brought up with you; and thus you will lay hold on it, as it is to be carried. (43)
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- When dealing with injustice, focus on the person’s humanity rather than the wrongful act.
- In plain terms
- See the brother, not just his bad behavior.
- What can you take from it?
- Approach others with empathy, even when they act unjustly.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When have I responded to injustice with compassion?
- How can I balance empathy with accountability?
Another view
Over‑empathizing may enable repeated injustice.
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