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If you have given way to anger, be sure that over and above the evil involved therein, you have strengthened the habit, and added fuel to the fire. If overcome by a temptation of the flesh, do not reckon it a single defeat, but that you have also strengthened your dissolute habits. Habits and faculties are necessarily affected by the corresponding acts... One who has had fever, even when it has left him, is not in the same condition of health as before, unless indeed his cure is complete. Something of the same sort is true also of diseases of the mind. Behind, there remains a legacy of traces and of blisters: and unless these are effectually erased, subsequent blows on the same spot will produce no longer mere blisters, but sores. If you do not wish to be prone to anger, do not feed the habit; give it nothing which may tend to its increase. At first, keep quiet and count the days when you were not angry: 'I used to be angry every day, then every other day: next every two, next every three days!' and if you succeed in passing thirty days, sacrifice to the Gods in thanksgiving. (75)

Epictetus#42

EthicsPsychologySelf disciplineHabitSelf help

About this quote

What does it mean?
Giving in to anger or temptation strengthens harmful habits, leaving lasting damage that must be fully healed.
In plain terms
Succumbing to anger or desire reinforces negative patterns.
What can you take from it?
Avoid feeding destructive habits to prevent lasting harm.

Where it applies

  • managing stress
  • overcoming addiction

Putting it to work

  • pause before reacting
  • replace habit with positive action

Questions to consider

  • What small steps can break a habit?
  • How do you measure true recovery?

Another view

Complete eradication of deep habits may be unrealistic.

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