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What does it mean?
When wronged, focus on the relationship rather than the injustice, so you can bear it.
In plain terms
Hold onto the bond, not the grievance.
What can you take from it?
Let relational ties soften the impact of injustice.

Where it applies

  • family disputes
  • workplace conflicts

Putting it to work

  • reframe the offense as a relational issue
  • practice compassion

Questions to consider

  • When is it okay to let an injustice go?
  • How do you balance justice and relationship?

Another view

Some injustices may require firm boundaries.

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