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What does it mean?
Love is frequently a transactional exchange where individuals maximize their gains based on their perceived market value.
In plain terms
People often treat relationships like business deals to get the best return on investment.
What can you take from it?
Be aware that some relationships are driven by exchange rather than genuine affection.

Where it applies

  • relationship counseling
  • societal critique
  • self-reflection

Putting it to work

  • evaluate relationship motivations
  • discourage transactional dating

Questions to consider

  • Is your relationship transactional?
  • How do you value yourself?

Another view

This view reduces all love to economics and ignores genuine altruism.

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