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Those who talk most about the blessings of marriage and the constancy of its vows are the very people who declare that if the chain were broken and the prisoners left free to choose, the whole social fabric would fly asunder. You cannot have the argument both ways. If the prisoner is happy, why lock him in? If he is not, why pretend that he is?

George Bernard Shaw#92

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Shaw points out the contradiction in defending marriage while admitting people would leave if free.
In plain terms
You can't claim people are happy if they only stay because they must.
What can you take from it?
Consistency matters when defending social institutions.

Where it applies

  • debate
  • social critique
  • relationship advice

Putting it to work

  • check arguments for consistency
  • value voluntary choice

Questions to consider

  • Is your commitment voluntary?
  • Why do you stay?

Another view

It simplifies complex social bonds into a prison analogy.

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