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The techniques of opening conversation are universal. I knew long ago and rediscovered that the best way to attract attention, help, and conversation is to be lost. A man who seeing his mother starving to death on a path kicks her in the stomach to clear the way, will cheerfully devote several hours of his time giving wrong directions to a total stranger who claims to be lost.

John Steinbeck#44

Human natureKindnessConversationHelpLoss

About this quote

What does it mean?
People are more willing to help those who are lost than those who are in need.
In plain terms
Being lost helps you get help; others will give directions to strangers.
What can you take from it?
Appearing vulnerable or lost often attracts help from others.

Where it applies

  • social interaction
  • travel
  • fundraising

Putting it to work

  • show vulnerability
  • ask for directions
  • connect with strangers

Questions to consider

  • Why do strangers help lost people?
  • How do you ask for help?

Another view

Not everyone wants to help; some may ignore or exploit you.

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