What goes on when people overfetishize safety is that they're relapsing into that old frame of mind that what we're doing is BAD.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Overemphasizing safety in SM can make participants feel like they are engaging in something wrong or forbidden.
- In plain terms
- Focusing too much on safety makes people feel like what they are doing is bad.
- What can you take from it?
- Avoid letting safety protocols create shame about your desires.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When does safety become a barrier to intimacy?
- How do you feel when safety is overemphasized?
Another view
Safety is still important even if discussing it feels uncomfortable.
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