The trouble is, SMers are allowing themselves to be defined by what they are not. We think, 'Oh, so many people believe that we're all murderers and rapists, and we have to explain that we're not!' Uh - so, a slogan for the gay civil rights movement should be 'Normal, Non-threatening and Not After Your Children'?
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- SMers define themselves by what they are not, rather than embracing their own identity.
- In plain terms
- Stop trying to prove you are not a criminal; embrace who you are.
- What can you take from it?
- Define yourself by your values, not by denial of stereotypes.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you define your identity?
- Are you living to defend or to be?
Another view
Defending against harmful stereotypes is sometimes necessary.
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