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You cannot die of grief, though it feels as if you can. A heart does not actually break, though sometimes your chest aches as if it is breaking. Grief dims with time. It is the way of things. There comes a day when you smile again, and you feel like a traitor. How dare I feel happy. How dare I be glad in a world where my father is no more. And then you cry fresh tears, because you do not miss him as much as you once did, and giving up your grief is another kind of death.

Laurell K. Hamilton#26

PsychologySadnessHealingMental health

About this quote

What does it mean?
Grief feels physically painful and can make happiness feel guilty, but over time the pain eases and life continues.
In plain terms
Grief hurts, but it fades and you can feel happy again.
What can you take from it?
Allow yourself time; grief will lessen and joy can return.

Where it applies

  • after a death
  • end of a relationship

Putting it to work

  • counseling
  • support groups

Questions to consider

  • How do you honor loss while moving forward?

Another view

Some grief may persist indefinitely, especially with unresolved trauma.

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