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Then there was this extra on the set who runs up to me and says, 'Oh, I know you! I know who you is, I seen you before. You that comedienne, Margaret Cho! I saw you at the Comedy Store. You was wearin' a kimono and you was bowin'.' 'No, that's the other one.' 'Oh, right! Now I remember. I just didn't recognize you because you've put on a little weight since your show.' And it didn't piss me off that she said that, but it was that she said 'You put on a lot of *gestures* weight!' so I'll know exactly where I put it. And it pissed me off, so I just sort of talked about it to everybody for the whole day. The next day I come into work and the assistant producer comes over to me and says, 'Uh, you know that lady from the other day? Well don't worry. We took care of her.' Oh my God! What did you do?! Suddenly I felt like I was running around like this tyrant, all drunk with power...'Nobody can call me fat on this set!'

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Cho tells a story about an extra commenting on her weight, which made her angry until the producer said they took care of her, making her feel like a tyrant.
In plain terms
Cho got angry when an extra commented on her weight, then felt guilty when the producer said they handled the situation.
What can you take from it?
Power can distort how we react to personal slights.

Where it applies

  • film sets
  • media production

Putting it to work

  • reflection
  • leadership critique

Questions to consider

  • How does power affect our sense of justice?
  • When do reactions feel disproportionate?

Another view

The resolution implies unfair power dynamics where criticism was suppressed.

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