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What does it mean?
He realized that past years with Tereza looked better in hindsight than while living them.
In plain terms
Memory can make past experiences seem better than they felt then.
What can you take from it?
Our recollections often idealize former times.

Where it applies

  • long‑term relationships
  • reflecting on youth

Putting it to work

  • revisit old letters
  • discuss past with partner

Questions to consider

  • What does this bias reveal?
  • How can we balance nostalgia and reality?

Another view

Idealizing the past can hinder present growth.

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