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About this quote

What does it mean?
A plea for honesty and calmness instead of hostility or cold indifference in a relationship.
In plain terms
Please be honest and calm instead of angry or cold.
What can you take from it?
Honesty and calm are better than hostility.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • intimacy
  • communication

Putting it to work

  • choose honesty over anger
  • de-escalate conflict

Questions to consider

  • What do you need most in a conflict?
  • How do you express anger?

Another view

Requesting honesty does not guarantee the other person will comply.

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