I hate it when you back away from a quarrel like that. I don't like conflict. But you always back off at the exact moment when you're about to tell the other person exactly what she needs to hear.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Avoiding conflict prevents telling someone what they really need to hear.
- In plain terms
- Backing away from a fight stops you from speaking the truth they need.
- What can you take from it?
- Confrontation is sometimes necessary for growth.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What do you avoid saying to others?
Another view
Sometimes avoiding conflict protects relationships from unnecessary harm.
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