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What does it mean?
A character connects with another person because their pain and isolation mirror his own childhood trauma.
In plain terms
He cares for her because she reminds him of his own pain.
What can you take from it?
Shared pain can create deep bonds.

Where it applies

  • when mentoring others
  • in therapy
  • when meeting someone similar

Putting it to work

  • use your past to help others
  • recognize shared pain

Questions to consider

  • How does your past shape your relationships?
  • When do you see yourself in others?

Another view

It may lead to projecting your issues onto others.

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