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At first he thought he felt bad because he was afraid of leading an army, but it wasn't true. He knew he'd make a good commander. He felt himself wanting to cry. He hadn't cried since the first few days of homesickness after he got here. He tried to put a name on the feeling that put a lump in his throat and made him sob silently, however much he tried to hold it down. He bit down on his hand to stop the feeling, to replace it with pain. It didn't help.

Orson Scott Card#13

IdentityGrowthEmotionLeadershipSadnessRealization

About this quote

What does it mean?
A character realizes his emotional distress is not fear of command but deep internal sorrow.
In plain terms
He thought he was afraid of leading, but he is actually grieving.
What can you take from it?
Emotions often hide beneath surface fears.

Where it applies

  • command roles
  • personal trauma
  • growth moments

Putting it to work

  • identify real emotions
  • acknowledge vulnerability
  • lead authentically

Questions to consider

  • What emotion are you hiding?
  • Why do you fear command?

Another view

Ignoring the physical pain might not resolve the root cause.

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