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What does it mean?
Sharing deep sorrow creates a bond that can feel more intimate than physical affection.
In plain terms
Crying together connects people more deeply than kissing, even if it is not as enjoyable.
What can you take from it?
Shared vulnerability builds deeper intimacy.

Where it applies

  • grieving together
  • close friendships

Putting it to work

  • share difficult emotions
  • support others in pain

Questions to consider

  • When did you feel most connected to someone?
  • What makes you feel vulnerable?

Another view

Not everyone values emotional exposure over physical closeness.

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