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What does it mean?
The speaker regrets wanting to control another person instead of being part of them.
In plain terms
I should be happy to be part of her rather than trying to own her time.
What can you take from it?
Embrace connection over control.

Where it applies

  • romantic relationships
  • parenting

Putting it to work

  • respect others' autonomy
  • focus on connection

Questions to consider

  • How do you show love?
  • Do you try to control others?

Another view

Desiring closeness is natural even if possession is harmful.

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