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What does it mean?
True love and respect do not involve controlling others' actions.
In plain terms
Love does not mean controlling what people do.
What can you take from it?
Respect autonomy to show true love and respect.

Where it applies

  • partnerships
  • parenting
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • let go of control
  • support choices

Questions to consider

  • Are you controlling?
  • What does respect look like?

Another view

People may care enough to try to protect others from harm.

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