Why don't you say what you're thinking? What makes you think you want to hear it? Because the way you looked at me... I knew what you were thinking was, I love her, I want her beside me forever, I want her to be my wife, and ... I tell you honestly, I'm sick and tired of waiting for you to say it outloud What! Why should I tell you what you already know? Because I need to hear it
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Unspoken feelings create tension; verbalizing them is necessary for relationship progress. Both parties need explicit confirmation.
- In plain terms
- You need to say what you feel to avoid tension.
- What can you take from it?
- Verbalizing feelings resolves relational uncertainty.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Why do we wait to say I love you?
- Is silence better than risk?
Another view
Some people fear rejection more than silence.
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