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He was not happy. And, if Ivan was any judge of character, neither was Katerina. Relieved, yes, she seemed to be relieved. As if one great hurdle had been passed. But Ivan knew that this was nothing to her but a marriage for reasons of the state. She had grown up knowing such a thing would be needed. He had not. He always expected to marry for love, or at least by his own choice. He had hoped for a bride who would be proud to say the vows with him. This was dismal indeed, to know that she was merely doing her duty to king and country, to god and daddy

Orson Scott Card#554

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About this quote

What does it mean?
A marriage of state brings relief but lacks love, contrasting duty with personal choice.
In plain terms
One person wants love while the other sees this as a duty.
What can you take from it?
Arranged marriages often prioritize duty over personal happiness.

Where it applies

  • royal families
  • political unions
  • family pressure

Putting it to work

  • balance duty and love
  • honor obligations

Questions to consider

  • Can you find love in a duty marriage?
  • Is duty more important than choice?

Another view

It assumes duty always prevents happiness in marriage.

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