It was then that [he] first loved [her]. Not for her flesh - [he] had known the body of the queen. Not out of pity - he knew her too well to see her from the distance that pity requires. He loved her because he admired her. For bearing without complaint the burden the queen put on her. For still being gentle and loving when she had ample reason to be bitter: does that surprise you? That of all people, your son could look at [her] and see beauty?
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Love rooted in admiration of character and endurance is deeper than physical attraction or pity.
- In plain terms
- He loved her for her strength and gentleness, not her body or pity.
- What can you take from it?
- Admire character and endurance over physical traits.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What non-physical traits do you admire most?
- Can love exist without physical attraction?
Another view
It idealizes suffering by suggesting gentleness is a virtue even when unjustly burdened.
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