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What does it mean?
Some people fail to recognize good manners and say thank you, which invites pity.
In plain terms
People who don't know when to shut up or say thank you deserve pity.
What can you take from it?
Gratitude and timing define social grace.

Where it applies

  • social interactions
  • conflict avoidance

Putting it to work

  • practice gratitude
  • know when to listen

Questions to consider

  • Do you say thank you enough?
  • When should you stay quiet?

Another view

Silence is sometimes better than forced thanks.

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