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They're going to be a bunch of little jerks, because that's the way kids are at that age, except you, because you were born not knowing how to hurt anybody else, you were born with compassion, only that also means that when people are cruel to you it cuts you deep. You wont understand that you have to walk right up to the ones who are being hateful and laugh in their faces and earn their respect. Instead you'll try to figure out what you did to make them mad at you

Orson Scott Card#676

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Children are often cruel due to immaturity, but empathetic ones suffer more and must learn to stand up for themselves.
In plain terms
Kids can be mean so compassionate kids need to learn to defend themselves.
What can you take from it?
Empathy is a strength but also requires boundaries.

Where it applies

  • school bullying
  • raising sensitive children
  • peer conflict

Putting it to work

  • teach self-defense
  • validate feelings
  • model respect

Questions to consider

  • How do you protect your sensitivity?
  • When did you first feel this?

Another view

It oversimplifies why children act cruelly.

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