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What does it mean?
Being needed desperately by another person can cause fear or anxiety.
In plain terms
It is scary when someone needs you too much.
What can you take from it?
Be aware of the weight of others' dependence.

Where it applies

  • codependency
  • caretaking
  • relationship dynamics

Putting it to work

  • setting boundaries
  • managing expectations

Questions to consider

  • Why does need frighten us?
  • How much reliance is healthy?

Another view

Need can also create deep connection and trust.

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